Aimee Mann is 47 today. Hard to believe. She still manages to make me pay attention, although for me one of her best was the frustration and anguish of “Voices Carry.” (Or here if you’re an MTV traditionalist.) We’ve all faced the dead void of a loved one trying to force us into a pre-formed mold.

Sometimes you just can’t help it. You can’t stop it.

Sometimes that flame burns you and sometimes it transforms you.